So many people are experiencing a financial squeeze right now. We've been wrestling with it, too, and I thought I'd share about the help I found, that has eased our situation. None of this involved hitting up a wealthy relative. Because of our money crisis and because I'm writing this blog about maximizing the effect from "It's Too Late to Quit," I had to do some dreaded personal work.
What I have always found off-putting about opening up to abundance is " clearing the mental and emotional blocks." Aurgh. Did I really want to jump back into that painful time in life that created that scarcity thinking? Well, if this time, it's to identify and forgive it, so it will be released out of my life and thinking for good, that's worth the effort. Even if I've gotten used to trying to run in concrete shoes, it's never been fun. And at this juncture in life, I am very serious about making it all more fun.
#1 Review your conditioning around abundance and money…
Scarcity thinking and being scared feed on each other. Living in a Fear Zone. When I was growing up, I witnessed the monthly anguish of my mother at her elegant cherry desk, staring at the bills, willing them to be less. She was tasked with feeding six humans on my father's coach /teacher's salary. Add to that, dressing us with a modicum of style and paying for dance and violin lessons. We were so strapped that fine dining was take-out from Burger Chef.
I don't know how my dear mama pulled it off; I just knew it was stressful. Loud voices behind my parents' bedroom door were about money. (Huge kerfluffle when my mother bought marigolds.) I'm sure you've got some of those ghosts, lurking in your memory fun house.
There was also the notion from my mother, who was ridiculously class conscious, that because we did not live in the nicer part of town, we were just a little less than those who did. It was a given in Sylvia's world, that people who had money were better than those who didn't.
Now there's the downside of White Privilege - living with with expectations of comfort and taste without the bank to assert your entitlement. Constantly disappointed.
It's ridiculous and sad that my dear mama missed the chance to express appreciation for what we had -for nothing - while we were all there. We were all pretty happy and healthy and loved each other. Kids need that - to feel that where they live is good enough and they are enough. No peeping wistfully over the fence at "Life is PERFECT with more money."
I remember going to my friend Lorraine's house and marveling at the modern Danish furniture and the swimming pool and the jars of upscale condiments in their fridge. Baby gherkins! Real strawberry jam instead of grape jelly! Dijon mustard instead of the bright yellow French's!
This was what I encountered on the other side of the fence. More rotten comparisons. Envy.
EXERCISE: Write down any of the not-great family attitudes about money that have created a toxic shawl that you wrap around yourself.
What are the crappy ideas about abundance that floated around your environment and poisoned your young, impressionable brain?
Like… if someone has more, someone else has less?
That you will always worry about paying your bills?
That if you have financial challenges, you are a loser?
This should not feel good. But if you made a list, if you actually exposed to yourself the pain points, now's the time you can make it all better.
So, you've got that list of negative experiences and people? Doesn't have to be everything. Just open to recognizing what hurt the worst. And as you write about it, and think about it, call up any compassion, understanding and empathy your Wise Self can muster. Because that Self knows it all happened for your Highest Good, to realize what you needed to realize.
We offer these wounds to be healed, through forgiveness. We accept that it's time to move on.
#2 Forgive all the anger and resentment you hold around money, to make way for the feeling of abundance. No matter what age you are when you read this, you can release the past to live a life of wisdom, love and fulfillment. You can embody and feel a flow of appreciation, joy and enthusiasm through your life. You can affirm your abundance.
Just in case you are balking at this task of letting go of the negative, thinking it's a wacky, time-wasting task, I'm going to point you to the wisdom of Jack Canfield, hugely successful creator of the "Chicken Soup for the Soul" series and a very rich dude:
"…it's about the vibration. It's about the frequency of the atoms that make up you - either they are attracting or repelling what you want. Happy people attract happy people. To become wealthy requires a level of self-confidence, of certainty that, "I'm attracting exactly what I need."
So, if you actually wrote something down, now you get to fold up your list of toxic memories and beliefs, hold it to your heart and make this declaration. Say the words aloud:
EXERCISE: ABUNDANCE AFFIRMATION
Ha. Pretty good, eh? If you do Pinterest - I've made these into quotes, and you are welcome to pin these to your Abundance/Vision board. https://pin.it/Xy5ogv2
In any case I invite you to pick one and print it out and tape it to your gaze point, just beyond your keyboard. It's about raising your vibration and keeping it there.
#3 Notice and Appreciate all the wealth you already have.
EXERCISE: Are you having a hard time locating where you feel abundant - a sense of joy, enthusiasm and gratitude? Too depressed? Try this. Here's a magnificent prayer created by Anayah Joi Holilly, my friend in Australia who authored The Angel Code:
#4 Understand that the more we give, the more we can receive.
This is allowing our ideas, positive feelings and extra stuff to flow through us, out into the world to make it better.
Because that is love in action. And truly, the more love we give, the more love we get.
I can assert here with great confidence, that your abundance of love demonstrated will bring miracles of abundance flowing into your life.
The key word is "demonstrated."
To demonstrate is to "clearly show the existence or truth of something by giving proof or evidence."
Demonstrate your abundance by giving away your extra stuff to people who need it.
Move out of your comfort zone to give your love and energy to some person, place, situation that needs your help and care.
We live in New Orleans, an incredible city with many people living in poverty. Most of our legendary restaurants, hotels, bars, andmusic venues have cut way back or shut down. Those folks who were managing to make a living, are out of work. Through our Irish Channel Neighborhood FB Group, my husband and I became aware of the local effort to keep the refrigerators in the poorest neighborhoods stocked with food.
NEW ORLEANS COMMUNITY FRIDGES is where we have been able to demonstrate our abundance. These words explain the mission on their home page:
"No one is fed, until everyone is fed. With this work, we are a growing resource guide for any person in New Orleans that would like to directly support their community through free food. These roles of involvement vary from being a fridge/food/monetary donor, a fridge host, a fridge keeper, an artist, a builder, an activist, and everyone in between and also across."
Thanks to the leadership of a great guy, Mike Boyle, we've developed a system of monitoring the supplies in two refrigerators and keeping people aware of the dire need. Once a week, I cook an extra pot of vegetable stew or chili. Also, I make a pile of peanut butter sandwiches. All this is gone in a few hours.
Along the way, we're inspired my pal Ica Hirons of gronola.net to donate the extra produce from her CSA and the food from her delicious Saturday Night dinners. My friend Michelle Curtin has dropped off peanut butter and jam for the sandwiches.
EVIDENCE THIS WORKS!
Remember the financial crisis I alluded to at the beginning? Well, as I have taken on this task of shifting my vibe and demonstrated abundance:
- Dan's PSA test (post radiation) is "really really good," according to his Radiologist.
- The bunch of money we needed to survive a crash of big bills has shown up.
- Some great producing partners for ANGEL LADY also showed up.
- I found the perfect platform for my Pinterest class, with the support I need.
That's plenty for now.
Move toward the life of your dreams by treating everyone with kindness and generosity.
Hope it works for you, too.
Onward with grace and abundance,
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